Nine Years Apart

Do you believe that God puts people in your life when you need them? That (most) everyone you’ve encountered thus far are there for a certain reason or to teach you a lesson? This is what I believe.

I don’t feel this way about everyone, but most people. It’s like your life is a TV show. You and your family (maybe spouses) are the main characters. Friends and other partners are supporting characters. Everyone makes a cameo here and there. Then there are the characters that were main characters, but had to leave the show because of an event that happened. They went away for a few seasons (or years) and then suddenly show back up in a plot twist and become a main character again.

I have a friend that has come back into my life like a plot twist. It was a good plot twist though. We met about 9 years ago. We had the same college Sociology class together. On the first day of class, I didn’t know anyone and didn’t know where to sit. There were tables that sat only two people. When I came in most of the tables were already full except for a few at the front, because who likes sitting in the front? I sat in one of the empty ones. Right before class started an older gentleman sat down beside me and became my new table partner. Usually I’d be like whatever, but I was fresh out of high school and was thinking “I don’t want to sit by the old guy”. He was like 70. Like good for him for going back to school at that age, but back then shallow and ‘too cool’ me didn’t want to sit by him. I wasn’t about to get up at that moment though because class was about to start so I made the decision to wait until the next day.

The next day I come in, wearing my green plaid shorts, and decided to sit in the back row this time. My future bestie had an empty spot open next to them. They seemed cool enough so I went for it. I sat down next to him and first thing he says is “I have a pair of shorts exactly like those.” We instantly became best friends. He became a main character in my life.  We hung out all the time. He had come into my life when I really needed someone. Like I said I was fresh out of high school and didn’t really have any friends because everyone had moved on. Just about all of my friends were either still in high school or gone to college out-of-state.

Fast forward to a year later. He ended up leaving my life (for personal reasons that I won’t get into). Our lives went separate ways. He moved to Miami, I moved to the other side of the country to Utah. The years went on and we had completely lost contact. I had tried a few times to find him online, but would only come up with dead ends. I found his account on Facebook but it was an old one that hadn’t been used in a couple of years. I tried to look up some family members, but either couldn’t find them or couldn’t remember their names. I always thought of him though. I mean he had been my best friend. I also felt a little hurt for the way he left my life.

Then one day a few weeks ago, out of nowhere he added me on Facebook. I couldn’t believe it. The reason I couldn’t find a current Facebook account was because he had changed his last name. But there he was adding me on Facebook. This friend a request had come at a time when I really needed someone again. I didn’t have anyone else. I added him and immediately got a message to exchange numbers. We started texted that night to catch up on the 9 years we had lost. We were able to pick back up where we left off so many years ago. Things are different now and we’re kind of different people now, but our friendship is pretty much the same. He came back into my life when I was struggling the most, when I really needed someone who understood what I’m going through. He understands what I’m going through and has been able to help me because he has gone through something similar. I don’t think that it’s a coincidence that he came back into my life right now, at this point in my life. I think it was meant to be. He was meant to be a supporting character in my life again. I believe that God sent him because I was struggling. I didn’t have anyone else to turn to. I needed my best friend again and he found me. For that I am thankful.


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